What is assertiveness?


Assertiveness is being able to say 'no', having your boundaries and limits respected, and being able to have your needs met without the need for aggression or conflict.


Sometimes other people can seem intimidating, especially if you have been the target of their anger or displeasure.  It is easy to be afraid of someone else's anger or rejection, so to avoid conflict you may find yourself complying with their wishes - instead of what you want to do. Itis all too easy to get the message 'they won't like me unless i do what they want'.



How assertive are you?


  • Do you ask for help when required?

  • Do you express irritation and anger appropriately?

  • Do you ask questions if you are confused?

  • Do you volunteer your opinions, especially when they are different to other people's?

  • Do you speak up frequently?

  • Can you say "no" when you don't want to do somethiing?

  • Are you able to speak in a confident manner?

  • Do you use confident body language?

  • Do you look at people when you speak with them?

  • Can you walk into a room with confidence?


Have you answered "no" to any of the questions?
Being assertive can be difficult for many people.  All of us can benefit from knowing and respecting our own values, boundaries, and needs.
Do you need help to be more assertive?
Contact Dr. Allison Lamont for an appointment now Telephone (09) 575 5432 or


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