What is resilience?

Resilience is the capacity to cope with stress and adversity.


Resilient people adapt well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, and stress. It means 'bouncing back' from difficult experiences.


Being resilient doesn't mean a person doesn't experience difficulty or stress. Resilience is not a trait that people either have or do not have. It involves behaviours, thoughts and actions that can be learnt and developed in anyone.



Factors in resilience

A combination of factors contribute to resilience. A number of research studies show that having caring and supportive relationships within and outside the family contributes a lot to resilience. Good relationships with others create trust, provide role models and offer encouragement and resassurance to help build a person's resilience.


There are a number of other factors that help, too:

  • The ability to make realistic plans and take steps to carry them out.

  • Skills of communication and problem solving.

  • the capacity to manage strong feelings and impulses.

You will learn the skills to:

  • Build strong relationships and connections.

  • Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable problems.

  • Accept change as a part of life.

  • Create and move towards your goals.

  • Take decisive actions.

  • See self-discovery opportunities.

  • Develop a positive, helpful view of yourself.

  • Keep everything in perspective.

  • Maintain a positive outlook.

  • Find the key ways of maintaining resilience that are personal to you.

  • Allow yourself to experience strong emotions without feeling out of control.

  • taking action to deal with your problems.

  • Meet the demands of daily life while still stepping back to rest and reenergise.

  • Rely on others, and rely on yourself.

Life is not about how fast you run or how high you climb, but how well you bounce.

-Vivian Komori

It is not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.

-Charles Darwin

What do I do next to build my Resilience?
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